Sooooo….I just wanted to talk about something that I noticed myself almost to giving in to. Settling is what I am referring too. I remember as a child my father would always tell me not to settle for less, because I would often accept a lesser thing, if what I really wanted was not available in that moment. As I have gotten older, I have learned to do otherwise, but I have noticed moments and situations where I see myself almost easing back into settling for less than I want or deserve. Lately, this has been the case when it comes to dating and with finding a new job in my career field.
When it comes to dating, I get tired of waiting for the right man to cross my path, so I consider settling for one of the guys that I know, and that are interested in dating me. When I get this feeling, I have to remember that I am never willing to sacrifice my beliefs, and the fact that my partner needs to have those same core values and be a Christian man….this always brings me back to focus, and confirms that I need not settle, and just continue waiting. I would rather wait on the right guy and be happy, than to settle for who is available, and we end up like a lot of other couples…angry, dissatisfied, and divorced.
And oh boy…my job. I have to make sure that I am not applying for and going on interviews out of desperation. Although I am more than ready to vacate the current workplace, I have to make sure I am cautious and prayerful about the jobs I am considering. I have to take into consideration the fact that I have career goals, and accepting any offer that comes my way could have me in the same predicament that I am in currently.
In a nutshell, I have learned that settling is a temptation to fill a void in my life, and this is why I have to remain prayerful about the moves that I make, because these are major decisions that have an effect on my future. I refer back to Jeremiah 29:11, where God has promised me that He has great plans for my life…to prosper me, and give me a hope and a future. None of that includes me settling for less. Settling just means that I am not willing to fight for what I want any longer, and those that know me, know that I am a fighter. Even though this season in my life may be uncomfortable for me, I will continue to stand firm in what I know and believe…no matter what.